We are not talking about fucking in front of children, we are talking about the lived experience of people who that has happened to and how it affected them. That means you are the one drawing false equivalence (you are equating fucking in front of kids with talking about the impact it had on the person). These are life experiences and can be talked about without the need for any thought-policing by you.

I also made no assertions that the OP was asking for permission to be a paedophile.

Is that so…

just asking this question seems noncey

This you?

just asking this question seems noncey

But why? Would it be noncey to talk about whether we got circumcised as children and how we feel about it now?

Most people who get circumcised are fine with it and think it’s weird or gross to not be. I’m not cut and I hate the idea of it ever being done to me though. Odd how reality defies expectation there. I wonder if that is true of other men too. Hmm, maybe there are other topics this could also be true in, do you possibly think?

This question is about the habits of people’s parents, and how it affected them growing up. This is not a question about fucking kids, and interpreting it as such is so out there it borders on the deliberate, which seems pretty fucking noncey to me. Why are you interpreting this as asking for permission to fuck kids?

I do this always. It’s the “I’m not a threat” thing. I prefer the discomfort or personal inconvenience to being seen as a threat or even causing anxiety in that direction. Maybe it makes no difference, that’s fine, maybe they think I’m weird, also fine as long as it has the intended effect of getting across that I am not a threat. It’s worth it for the times it does matter.