Did your parents have sex around you as a child?
And if so, what (if any) effect has it had on you?
Is it weird/confusing/traumatic for children, or does it provide a healthier and more realistic model of sexuality than pornography and school-based sex education?
From your post history it seems you’re in or from the UK so you should know performing any sexual act in front of a child is illegal in the UK and honestly, just asking this question seems noncey.
Edit: Lots of paedo apologists in this thread it seems.
But why? Would it be noncey to talk about whether we got circumcised as children and how we feel about it now?
Most people who get circumcised are fine with it and think it’s weird or gross to not be. I’m not cut and I hate the idea of it ever being done to me though. Odd how reality defies expectation there. I wonder if that is true of other men too. Hmm, maybe there are other topics this could also be true in, do you possibly think?
This question is about the habits of people’s parents, and how it affected them growing up. This is not a question about fucking kids, and interpreting it as such is so out there it borders on the deliberate, which seems pretty fucking noncey to me. Why are you interpreting this as asking for permission to fuck kids?
Fucking in front of a child and people talking about their mutilated penis with other adults are not at all comparable. What a wild false equivalence to make.
I also made no assertions that the OP was asking for permission to be a paedophile. I do however think it’s not an unreasonable assumption to make that a paedophile may want to read stories of parents sexually abusing their children.
We are not talking about fucking in front of children, we are talking about the lived experience of people who that has happened to and how it affected them. That means you are the one drawing false equivalence (you are equating fucking in front of kids with talking about the impact it had on the person). These are life experiences and can be talked about without the need for any thought-policing by you.
Is that so…
This you?
Warning someone that the question they have asked comes across as noncey is not the same as calling them a nonce. Again with the false equivalences.
Maybe I could have worded it better, how about:
“Hey OP, just a heads up, while you yourself may not be a paedo some people may enjoy this thread less for the thought provoking cultural exchanges and more so for the enjoyment of reading about child abuse.”
How’s that?
Really, that’s where you mind went from reading OPs question? I think that says more about you than OP.
So you honestly think a thread about child abuse won’t have paedos rubbing their hands with glee?
This wasn’t really a thread about child abuse until you showed up.
Performing a sexual act in front of a child is child abuse. Don’t be obtuse.
Right, exept OP said “around”, like in the same house for example. It was you that changed it to “in front”. Those are very different implications.
That is how you chose to interpret it. They also go on to talk about pornography and sex education which implies some amount of awareness from the child, no?
I don’t know what point you’re trying to make or why you’re defending some perceived slight I made towards the OP when I didn’t even call them a nonce. Their own reply to me was amicable. Seems like you’re just being defensive for the sake of it?
For sure. And just to be 100% clear: child welfare needs to be our top priority at all times and in all places, with no exceptions. Lemmy is international and multicultural though and the post is already producing thoughtful and responsible discussion based on lived experience.
I’m happy for mods to remove the post or even to remove it myself if the discussion becomes toxic or unsafe.