How would you express both dominance and romance/affection at once? In your post you gave an example of “a big cuddly woman spoiling her partner with affection…” - Two people in a relationship might know the woman is the dominant one, but from a viewer’s perspective it just looks like cuddling. Those are the nuances that are hard to express to a viewer.

What you’re looking for is “gentle femdom”. Porn in general skews aggressive and performative, probably because that type of sex is easier to visualize than tender, loving emotions felt between a couple. The former is easier to watch without having to relate to it. The latter is more entertaining to experience than to watch.

If anything, it makes me more curious about how it smells and tastes. I can’t help it, haha XD

This video of two Danes trying Surströmming fish had me in a laughing fit.