I think you’re right, and I think the problem is that many people equate dominance with aggression, especially physical aggression, and even more especially abusive aggression. It can be really difficult to break someone of this misconception, and popular media (e.g. “Fifty Shades of Grey”) really hasn’t helped.
It is perfectly possible to be controlling with soft power (more of a straitjacket than a bludgeon) but this is more subtle and more difficult to portray in a visual format, regardless of the gender(s) of the characters involved. You’re more likely to find what you’re looking for in written format than visual, because written description handles subtlety better than video.
Subtlety requires time almost by default, and most forms of visual adult media are about quick gratification.
I think you’re right, and I think the problem is that many people equate dominance with aggression, especially physical aggression, and even more especially abusive aggression. It can be really difficult to break someone of this misconception, and popular media (e.g. “Fifty Shades of Grey”) really hasn’t helped.
It is perfectly possible to be controlling with soft power (more of a straitjacket than a bludgeon) but this is more subtle and more difficult to portray in a visual format, regardless of the gender(s) of the characters involved. You’re more likely to find what you’re looking for in written format than visual, because written description handles subtlety better than video.
Subtlety requires time almost by default, and most forms of visual adult media are about quick gratification.