I wasn’t aware of much defederation from .ml. I came here from .world because .world was defederating from too many other instances. I think what we really need is a new client that connects to multiple instances and does its own tracking of read articles and stuff like that. The Lemmy federation model was well intended, but I would say it has failed. Even at the popular instances, the fediverse is fragmented, which wasn’t supposed to happen.

I would say look for a SIP carrier in Europe rather than someplace that makes you use a special app. Here in the US, twilio.com, voip.ms, and I think jmp.chat are popular. IDK about Europe or whether any of those operate there. I know you can get .au inbound numbers from Twilio but placing calls from there might be harder. What about getting an outbound VOIP service and phone number that’s actually in Oz? You’d then be connecting with a SIP client from Europe which could result in janky audio, but it’s something to try.

Wait, FOURTEEN? I thought you were going to say 19 or something like that. Either way just be honest, you’re taken, there’s too much age difference, and (apparently) she’s not your type. She should meet up with someone her own age.