Reddit was always like this.

Now they’ve made ads indistinguishable from posts.

The discourse is generally low quality, divisive and likely bot driven.

Every woman I know has felt pressured to look a certain way by our dominant capitalistic world view. With the emergence of social media and influencer culture, men are starting to feel this pressure affect them too.

Its very hard to make someone stop believing that something objectively apparent doesn’t matter. Its less about whether it matters to you and more about how she feels others perceive what she perceives to be a flaw.

Telling her that it doesn’t matter to you is totally fair. Telling her it doesn’t matter to anyone would not be entirely true - yes, our culture can be that superficial.

There are, after all, entire industries that count on us to impart such insecurity onto our daughters so that they spend on beauty products their whole lives and keep that revenue engine churning.

My suggestion would be to reassure her that it doesn’t matter to you but to also see if you can have a broader conversation on the social pressures she has experienced related to her appearance and how it has impacted her life. You may have had similar experiences to share. This will brinf you closer, remembering that true confidence comes from strong relationships built on a foundation of mutual trust.

I would take it a step further with indigineous teachings that those with great power use it for the greater good, do not dismiss the central role of women in communities and respects the sanctity of all that is living, human and non-human.

To me, that is a good person and I believe that every person has the potential to be good.