That just meaning well or having good intentions, are not enough. You need to actually show up and make time for the things, and people, you value.

Thinking of a great friend who had the courage to break up with me, and tell me straight up it’s because I was a bad friend to them.

Often synonymous with just having an above average vocabulary. Ohhhh if only that’s all it took to be truly smart …

Don’t they?? I’m instantly charmed.

Top shelf introspection here.

Re being a good person I wouldn’t sweat your mirror neurons over it too much. I suspect that if most people did the kind of self-analysis you’ve done, they would find similar, ulterior drives.

Anyway, so while I’ve long since shelved the fantasy of “true altruism” I have noticed that I’m more likely to behave nicely if I can set myself up for success by doing things like eating enough, working out, avoiding running late, etc. In a very real way I am a nicer person when I’m, for example, not running late.

I do this because behaving nicely is important to my self image, and leads to a more pleasant feeling life.

It’s something.

Same, although I’m shy about the alcoholic label. But the fact is I was sadder and less motivated, even when I managed to drink “moderately,” and I feel better in every conceivable way since I stopped. I feel like I can trust myself to handle things straight-on now.

If you’re dreaming, we’re sharing the same dream.

No. I don’t even like visible vote count. I think it hurts us more than it helps.