I think I understand where you’re coming from, I don’t think you’re a coward anymore. I think this is a classic case of common parlance resulting in miscommunication.
When you say ‘get serious’ ; many people in the U.S. take that to mean ‘serious about being with the person romantically, not just sexually’. If I’m interpreting what you’re saying correctly, ‘get serious’ was just used to mean ‘the sexy time is about to happen’ , no?
I think that this may be a miscommunication, I think that what they mean by ‘get serious’ is that the relationship has progressed to the point where having sex is all but guaranteed (which, let’s be real - that can happen pretty fucking fast).
At least that’s how I’m reading it.
By the by, this sentence is brilliant, I’m keeping this one.
Not sure if you’re serious - but thank you, if you are.
That being said, there’s a difference between reservation and lying.
If you’re ‘reserved’ and plan on telling them before you have sex with them, ok - I can acknowledge that that isn’t cowardly.
If the two of you fuck and then you tell them you’re only interested in sex - that’s cowardly and manipulative behavior.
I show interest in the person and see if they like me back. If they don’t, I leave it at that.
Perfectly valid, not cowardly behavior.
I will concur it might be difficult for the other party to distinguish my intentions.
No. No the only reason it would be difficult is because you aren’t upfront about it. Cowardly behavior to service a vice.
Ahh, it makes much more sense - I’m sorry for initially calling you a coward. This is completely normal behavior.