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Cake day: June 10th, 2023

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  • It’s not about that one acquaintance, it’s about the time allocation for friends. If someone isn’t going to be able to handle my kids, I’m not going to be able to spend enough time with them to make spending time with them valuable to both of us.

    I don’t get someone to cover my kids every week, it’s going to only happen maybe once a month, so I’m going to use that valuable time to invest in the people I’m maintaining closer friendships with.

    Having 20 friends you see rarely doesn’t make you happier than having 4 friends you see regularly. If you’re single, you can have 20 friends that you see regularly, but that’s almost impossible as a parent with multiple kids.






  • If you don’t want to meet her with the kids, there’s little point in meeting her at all. You aren’t going to be hanging out regularly because she will have kids that need to be tended, so why push.

    As a parent, we only hang out with other parents at this point, and generally only those that we have developed a relationship with via kids activities (school, sports, etc) because it’s much easier to maintain that relationship when you see them 2-3 times a week for <insert sport> here, or can schedule a lunch/dinner before or after the mutual <insert kids event> here that you know you will both be attending.






  • You’re saying that people who are old can’t learn or be taught how to use a modern communications tool. Who’s really being ageist here?

    My 70 year old father can handle most things on his cellphone with just a few minutes of someone walking him through it.

    Also, as of 2023, only 10% of the world population is over 65, so between the fact that there aren’t actually that many old people and some of them definitely CAN operate modern technology, it’s a good solution for most situations.