I got divorced like 5 months ago after a 9 years with this girl who cheated on me, emotionally abused me, etc etc
I’ve been suicidal since the split, getting worse by the day still, and literally nobody ever asked if I was OK, aside from my mom. Even when I begged close friends for support they basically just ghosted me. My ex is surrounded by support, from the same people who I thought were my best friends.
Do I just have shitty people around me or is this just what guys deal with? The attitude towards me is just “get over it”. I’ve lost almost everyone I’m close to because of this and I’m starting to think there might actually be one viable option of getting over it because existing is simply torture. All of 2025 felt like just a bad dream but it’s unfortunately real.
Edit: Yes I have a counselor - a very good one I see weekly.
My man, i know I am just a random internet person, but please let me (at least virtually) hug you. I mean it.
A divorce is trully a tough process, and you have the right to feel affected by it. You are not “exagerating” things or being unreasonable. So don’t think that they are right when the say “simply get over it”.
Having said that, I please ask you not to take any strong decision right now, we (all humans) don’t think correctly when we are severely affected by emotions. That’s simply the human nature. So try by all means to invest in yourself, therapy, gym, read philosophy (Stoicism is a good start), observe life, therapy again, learn something new, maybe move to a different city to mark a new start…
The sun will absolutely shine again, and you will be proud of yourself for your growth and for having gathered strenghts when there were none.
You can do this. This feeling is not permanent. Please remember that.
Again, a huge hug for you, my fellow human. You can pass this chapter.