Well, in middle school, the teachers split the boys from the girls. Unfortunately, we got stuck with the security guard as our male role model. Instead of talking about how our dicks are supposed to work during puberty, he spent the hour vagely instructing a bunch of kids how to flirt with women. It was boring as shit, kind of inappropriate, and we would’ve been better off doing literally anything else. I also wasn’t taught sex ed at my high school. I have a vague memory of being gathered once in the auditorium for a talk this one time, but I don’t remember them going over anything important.
So instead, I used to frequent the local LGBT community center for years after school. And that’s where I got all my real education about so many interesting topics. The space was sex-positive, meaning you could openly discuss it educationally, share your experiences, and ask questions without judgment. They covered all the types of sexual orientations, all the types of condoms, sex toys, sexual practices, diseases, treatment options, warned about drug use during sex, gave a lot of health recommendations with the latest research, the whole nine yards. They regularly had programming for young adults during weeknights with topics relating to the community that didn’t necessarily relate to sex. It was amazing and eye-opening to have my gay life fully explained before I became an adult. I wish it were more common, if only for the experience alone, which was wonderful.
But what I love is that I’ve seen the same format again at my current LGBT community center in another country. It wouldn’t surprise me if I walked in and kindly asked for help, and they’d answer all my questions regardless of my background or orientation or whatever. Their willingness to communicate accurate medical information for your safety is incredible.
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Well, in middle school, the teachers split the boys from the girls. Unfortunately, we got stuck with the security guard as our male role model. Instead of talking about how our dicks are supposed to work during puberty, he spent the hour vagely instructing a bunch of kids how to flirt with women. It was boring as shit, kind of inappropriate, and we would’ve been better off doing literally anything else. I also wasn’t taught sex ed at my high school. I have a vague memory of being gathered once in the auditorium for a talk this one time, but I don’t remember them going over anything important.
So instead, I used to frequent the local LGBT community center for years after school. And that’s where I got all my real education about so many interesting topics. The space was sex-positive, meaning you could openly discuss it educationally, share your experiences, and ask questions without judgment. They covered all the types of sexual orientations, all the types of condoms, sex toys, sexual practices, diseases, treatment options, warned about drug use during sex, gave a lot of health recommendations with the latest research, the whole nine yards. They regularly had programming for young adults during weeknights with topics relating to the community that didn’t necessarily relate to sex. It was amazing and eye-opening to have my gay life fully explained before I became an adult. I wish it were more common, if only for the experience alone, which was wonderful.
But what I love is that I’ve seen the same format again at my current LGBT community center in another country. It wouldn’t surprise me if I walked in and kindly asked for help, and they’d answer all my questions regardless of my background or orientation or whatever. Their willingness to communicate accurate medical information for your safety is incredible.